Lili Añel

released April 6, 2006

www.lilianel.org

Lili Añel: lead vocals, background vocals,
acoustic guitar
Matt Balitsaris: acoustic guitar, electric
guitar, synth programming, insignificant
percussion, and hand claps
Jeff Berman: drums, percussion, midi-vibes
Paul Adamy: bass
Joey Cardello: congas, pandero, cuica on Tonight:
congas on Dance The Life, djembe on Let Her Go
Mark Egan: bass on Love Is It
Robert Een: cello on I Still Have You
Brian Mitchell: accordion on Never Ever Say It
Barbara Añel: background vocals
Cornelius Bumpus: saxophone on Tonight and
Baby When?
Matthew Kofo Ayanfowora: djembe on Let Her Go,
talking drum on On The Run

All songs ©1993/2005 Lili Añel Twin Two Music B.M.I
except the Wrong Time ©1993 Barbara Añel
Twin Two Music B.M.I.

Love Is It ©1993 Lili Añel/Linda Zecchino
Twin Two Music B.M.I

Dance The Life ©1993 Lili Añel/Reuben Slater
Twin Two Music B.M.I

Bonus Tracks:
The Wrong Time, Over You, The Way Out recorded live in Philadelphia 2005 and 2006.

Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious

Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious

Mary Poppins meets Donald Trump, in this song with lyrics by Austin folksinger Steve Brooks. Thanks to Andy Corwin for producing the video, and Internet satirist Randy Rainbow for the title.

If you’re Mexican or Muslim,
You’ll pray for his defeat.
But he might be up your alley
If you’re into wearing sheets.
Ladies, you will find him
The most sensitive of males.
He’ll help you find employment
With his buddy, Roger Ailes.

He’s Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious.
Every word escapes his lips is something quite atrocious.
Could it be Tourette’s or simply verbal halitosis?
Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious.

Trump did a little diddle. Trump did a lie.
Trump did a little diddle. Trump did a lie.

He never met a dictator
He didn’t seem to like.
They’re giving him ideas
For the rise of the Fourth Reich.
He’s tweeting Mussolini,
He’s singing Putin’s tune.
He’s jealous of the people skills
Of Comrade Kim Jong-Un.

He’s Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious.
Psychiatrists are arguing about his diagnosis.
Paranoid Delusional or Borderline Psychosis?
Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious.

Trump did a little diddle. Trump did a lie.
Trump did a little diddle. Trump did a lie.
Trump did a little diddle. Trump did a lie.
Trump did a little diddle. Trump did a lie.

He’s got a snarky nickname
For each and every foe.
“Lyin’ Ted” and “Crooked Hillary” –
I guess he oughta know.
But perhaps I should be kinder.
It seems a bit unfair
To judge a man until you’ve walked
A mile in his hair.

He’s Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious
American democracy has got a dim prognosis.
It’s either on bad acid or a case of mass hypnosis.
Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious.
His finger on the button hands the world back to the roaches…
Super Callous Fascist Racist Extra Braggadocious!

America The Beautiful by RustyTinder

September 11 – The New Pearl Harbor

Investigating one of the most compelling mysteries of our lifetime. 9/11 Revisited – The world we live in today is largely a direct result of the events of September 11, 2001. This 3-part documentary is an extremely detailed examination of what really happened on the day that changed the course of the world.

The Five Dimensions of Effective Apology

This is how one makes amends. This is the kind of apology that creates healing. So many people just say, “yeah… sorry.”​ without pause, introspection or conscientiousness.

The Five Dimensions of Effective Apology

By John Kador

Effective apologies are as unique as the offenses that inspire them, but they all have, in varying degrees, five dimensions. You will easily remember them if you think of the five Rs of effective apology: Recognition, Responsibility, Remorse, Restitution, and Repetition.

Recognition–acknowledging the offense–establishes that an offense requiring apology has been committed. To the offender this step may seem as obvious as the offense itself, and therefore it may be tempting to just get through the apology or “get on with it.” But more often than not, skipping the recognition step results in a statement that just compounds the offense because it leaves the victim uncertain whether the apologizer understands why the victim is so upset. Recognizing the offense requires the offender to consider at least three questions:

  1. What am I apologizing for?
  2. What was the impact of my behaviors on the victim?
  3. What social norm or value did I violate?

Responsibility–The key to effective apology is taking responsibility for your role in the consequences of your behavior. It lays the moral agency for those offenses squarely and solely at the feet of the offender. What distinguishes effective from half-hearted apologies is the integrity that offenders demonstrate when they look deep into their hearts and reckon uncompromisingly with what they find there. In fearlessly pushing away all excuses, the apologizer retains undiluted responsibility. Underlying it all is the intention that the offender values the relationship and desires to rebuild it on terms agreeable to the victim.

Remorse–signals the offender’s contrition. Remorse is the feeling that we get when we realize that something we did hurt someone and that it was wrong, and we wish we could undo what we did. Because there is no way to know whether someone else is experiencing remorse, we rely on a variety of verbal and nonverbal cues. By far the most important verbal cue, without which a statement falls short of being an actual apology, is the phrase “I’m sorry” or “I apologize.” There are no suitable alternatives in English. Using the words “I’m sorry” or “I apologize” is pretty much nonnegotiable. It is, in fact, the entire reason for the apology, and without such an expression you may as well not bother with the apology at all. Body language, facial expression, and tone of voice are also crucial markers of remorse.

Restitution–is the practical attempt to restore the relationship to what it was before you broke it. Effective apology is more than just words. You can’t talk your way out of a situation you acted your way into. For serious breaches, the offender must demonstrate a concrete expression of contrition. In other words, it must have some element of action. Without restitution, it becomes more difficult for offended parties to accept an apology, however well crafted. How could they? The relationship remains unbalanced. The offender continues to benefit to the disadvantage of the victim. It is no wonder that victims and judges alike pay careful attention to what an offender actually does in the way of restitution, because restitution is the clearest expression of the offender’s desire to restore the relationship.

Repetition–is a promise to the victim that the offender will not repeat the offense. A particularly effective phrase is a variant of, “I promise it will never happen again.” It is often effective to end the apology with such a commitment; communication theory suggests that people remember best what they hear last. The promise not to repeat the offending behavior is often a stumbling block to apology. Although the intent may be genuine, it’s actually very difficult to deliver on the promise. The apologizer must demonstrate through words and actions that he or she really has changed. The ultimate test, of course, occurs when the circumstances that led to the original offense present themselves. Will the former offender yield to old habits and values? Or will the lessons of the apology control the situation? Unfortunately, human nature being what it is, the past is too often the best predictor of future performance. It takes more than apology to get past old habits. It requires a commitment to new values and a constant reminder that we have the ability to learn from our mistakes.

There are three things that are real: accidents, human fallibility, and apology. The first two are pretty much beyond our comprehension or control, so we must do what we can with the third. The purpose of apology is to extend ourselves in such a way that relationships become deeper, and life becomes richer and more human in the process. All we have to do is honor the impulse–and practice. It’s not always easy, but we rarely wrestle with apology and lose.

 Read more by John Kador here.

Merry Christmas, Charlie Brown and Linus, too.

Snowing on Charlie Brown Christmas

Facebook: Fuck You and Your Arbitrary Censorship

Satire of Viagra ad censored by FacebookIn a closed Facebook group focused on humor, I posted a satirical Viagra ad with a couple dancing, while the female dancer is holding on to the guy’s appendage. Well FACEBOOK just deleted it for violating their community standards and blocked me from posting for 24 hours. Even though the warning said things that depict nudity of a satirical nature are ALLOWED. It’s not even a photo, it’s a drawing.

Facebook gives no chance to refute. Just instant sentencing. A friend agrees, “It’s ridiculous! They installed some auto recognition software and it’s so stupid. Welcome to 1984.” Fuck you, Facebook. Your capricious and arbitrary censorship has its consequences. Be likewise warned. This billion dollar social networking company can disintegrate and crumble just as fast as it rose.

Report: Facebook Censorship Designed To Prevent ‘Exclusion’

 

NYC releases people from jail without winter coats — even in freezing weather

NEW YORK DAILY NEWS
Wednesday, December 21, 2016, 7:27 PM

Public defenders say they are scrambling to find coats for dozens of inmates who are released daily from jail at courthouses citywide. Releases can happen if defendants make bail, cop a plea or see their cases dismissed.

 Now why would anyone be surprised if one of these people shop-lifted a coat to survive?

Visiting Holly’s Gravesite at Hollywood Forever

Brian and his friend Fr. Jamie St Anthony visit the gravesite of their dear friend, Holly Woodlawn, on the first anniversary of her death, at Hollywood Forever cemetery.

Holly Woodlawn's final resting place at Hollywood Forever cemetery in Los Angeles

Jacqueline Bertrand

Jacqueline Bertrand and Myriam Cyr, with author Olivier ToddJacqueline Bertrand and Myriam Cyr, with author Olivier Todd. February 9, 1998 at the Algonquin Hotel in NY City. In this rare clip from a C-SPAN broadcast, the two actresses both read a scene from their upcoming production of a play by Albert Camus.

I had the pleasure of getting to know Jacqueline during a production of the play Scream at Penguin Rep in 1983. A new work by prolific playwright Arthur Laurents, about a husband and wife in Queens who capture a Nazi war criminal and hold him captive in their beauty parlor. Yitzak was played by actor Norman Howard, and Nessa by Mme. Bertrand, while their Vietnam veteran son Was portrayed by Bruce McDonnell. Jacqueline was simply wonderful as the concentration camp survivor who creates her own version of revenge.

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